Last week, playing catch-up, driving practice
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cimoreneLast week I spent all five days out of the house, 9 am to 3 pm, at a course designed to help job seekers. I was hoping for this to be more immediately helpful to me than it was; the last one I went to had time blocks for comparing positives and negatives to decide what kind of places to apply, compiling a list, and creating separate cover letters and CVs, all with counselor feedback; but it lasted longer. These are all things that I know how to do but which are much easier to do with external structure because of executive dysfunction! ( Read more... ) I did not learn much last week, though I did get a few tips about modifying my CV. I found the week surprisingly nice, though - way too draining (I didn't have the energy to do anything else all week), but it was pretty comfortable. I liked the other people and would have been happy to keep seeing them.
After one week where I was too exhausted to do anything, after having been in the habit of near-daily sweeping and vacuuming of the kitchen/dining Sipuli enclosure where I spend the day and Wax sleeps at night, there were a staggering amount of dust bunnies today. I spent a long time sweeping and vacuumed a bit (until the vacuum needed charging). Then I took the rinsed recycling from the draining cupboard where it drips dry, because it was starting to leap out whenever you opened the cabinet door, and I also washed the counters and the sink. That was extremely fun and exciting for Sipuli. She got the zoomies and zipped around sniffing things and warbling at me and playing for a couple of hours. (She is back inside the duvet tent against the radiator now, though.)
A week ago we also finally gave up on the triplets telling us what kind of sweaters they would like (these are their 18th birthday present from last summer: Sweater of Your Choice. I tried spamming them with pictures and suggestions for months. Ciara picked a mariniere and a color combination, but the others didn't even make a peep). We also could not get a response on 'When can we come to your house and measure your teenagers' or 'Could you measure the length and width of a sweatshirt from each of them' from Wax's brother, so we finally just asked for generic size class (M for all three) and then decided to guess. Wax and I picked the patterns and the colors for the two remaining sweaters. She is working on Ciara's sweater and I have started one of the others, and already managed to knit too many hours in a row (in spite of not even having made it down from the neck opening to the underarms yet) so my right shoulder was feeling stiff. So now I'm trying to knit for shorter blocks of time and do other things in between, to avoid hurting myself so badly that I have to stop knitting entirely again.
Due to the aforementioned exhaustion we've only gone out for me to practice driving our car once so far, and I was disconcerted that it was pitch black and I couldn't see the inside of the car. Everything's different, including the gear shift! Driving in daylight in this season will require a little more work though, since the sun is up from about 8-16:30. Wax is working too late this week.
After one week where I was too exhausted to do anything, after having been in the habit of near-daily sweeping and vacuuming of the kitchen/dining Sipuli enclosure where I spend the day and Wax sleeps at night, there were a staggering amount of dust bunnies today. I spent a long time sweeping and vacuumed a bit (until the vacuum needed charging). Then I took the rinsed recycling from the draining cupboard where it drips dry, because it was starting to leap out whenever you opened the cabinet door, and I also washed the counters and the sink. That was extremely fun and exciting for Sipuli. She got the zoomies and zipped around sniffing things and warbling at me and playing for a couple of hours. (She is back inside the duvet tent against the radiator now, though.)
A week ago we also finally gave up on the triplets telling us what kind of sweaters they would like (these are their 18th birthday present from last summer: Sweater of Your Choice. I tried spamming them with pictures and suggestions for months. Ciara picked a mariniere and a color combination, but the others didn't even make a peep). We also could not get a response on 'When can we come to your house and measure your teenagers' or 'Could you measure the length and width of a sweatshirt from each of them' from Wax's brother, so we finally just asked for generic size class (M for all three) and then decided to guess. Wax and I picked the patterns and the colors for the two remaining sweaters. She is working on Ciara's sweater and I have started one of the others, and already managed to knit too many hours in a row (in spite of not even having made it down from the neck opening to the underarms yet) so my right shoulder was feeling stiff. So now I'm trying to knit for shorter blocks of time and do other things in between, to avoid hurting myself so badly that I have to stop knitting entirely again.
Due to the aforementioned exhaustion we've only gone out for me to practice driving our car once so far, and I was disconcerted that it was pitch black and I couldn't see the inside of the car. Everything's different, including the gear shift! Driving in daylight in this season will require a little more work though, since the sun is up from about 8-16:30. Wax is working too late this week.
On fanfic
Nov. 24th, 2025 02:01 pmscripsiI haven’t written any fanfic in a long time, and I feel I need to get back into it. I know from experience it’s good for my mental wellbeing to write, and as the world continues to hassle us, I need what I can get to feel good. I had been thinking of signing up for Yuletide, but completely missed the sign-up window. But when I checked what other people wish for, I found 2 letters that gave me ideas. So I will try to get those done as treats. I’ll try to write 300 words every day. More if I get in a flow, of course, but 300 words is doable even days with little writing time.
Fanfic meme gakked from all over my f-list.
From your AO3 Works page, look at the tags and find the answers to these questions.
I currently have 123 works published, in 28 fandoms.
1. Under what rating do you write most?
Teen and up audience, with 47 works.
I thought Explicit or Mature would be on top, but they are number 3 and 4. But as it is my longer fics that tends to get that rating, while my one-shots usually have a lower rating, that isn’t so surprising.
2. What are your top 3 fandoms?
Doctor Who with 32 fics.
Peter Pan with 17 fics.
And Harry Potter and Versailles both come third with 8 fics each.
Peter Pan was my first big fandom in the early 2000s, and Doctor Who my second one, ten years later, so no surprise with those. I was also super into Versailles for a bit, so that’s not odd either. But I’ve never really been very big on Harry Potter. I was over 30 when I first read the series, and I never really thought they were particularly well-written, though I was hooked enough to read every new book. But 3 of my fics are written as part of a re-mix challenge, so I didn’t really choose which fandom I would match on.
3. Which character do you write about most?
Captain Hook, who is in all my Peter Pan-fics. The Delgado version of the Master comes second, and River Song third. Though if you want to argue that the Master is the same character regardless of regeneration s/he is definitely my most written one, in 30 fics in total.
4. What are the 3 top pairings you've written?
On shared first place are Wendy Darling/James Hook (Peter Pan), Sophie de Clermont/Fabien Marchal (Versailles) and The Master/River Song (Doctor Who), who all have 7 fics each. Second pairing is Beth Harmon/Vasily Borgov (The Queen’s Gambit) with 6 fics. And third place are Evy Carnahan O'Connell/Rick O'Connell and Imhotep/Evy Carnahan O'Connell (The Mummy), and Vanessa Ives/Sir Malcolm Murray (Penny Dreadful) with 3 fics each.
5. What are the top 3 additional tags?
On shared first place I have Humor, Angst, Dark, which have 14 fics each. Second is Alternate Universe - Canon Divergence with 9 fics, and in third place is Spanking with 8. Which I feel gives a pretty good general overview over my fanfics.
Fanfic meme gakked from all over my f-list.
From your AO3 Works page, look at the tags and find the answers to these questions.
I currently have 123 works published, in 28 fandoms.
1. Under what rating do you write most?
Teen and up audience, with 47 works.
I thought Explicit or Mature would be on top, but they are number 3 and 4. But as it is my longer fics that tends to get that rating, while my one-shots usually have a lower rating, that isn’t so surprising.
2. What are your top 3 fandoms?
Doctor Who with 32 fics.
Peter Pan with 17 fics.
And Harry Potter and Versailles both come third with 8 fics each.
Peter Pan was my first big fandom in the early 2000s, and Doctor Who my second one, ten years later, so no surprise with those. I was also super into Versailles for a bit, so that’s not odd either. But I’ve never really been very big on Harry Potter. I was over 30 when I first read the series, and I never really thought they were particularly well-written, though I was hooked enough to read every new book. But 3 of my fics are written as part of a re-mix challenge, so I didn’t really choose which fandom I would match on.
3. Which character do you write about most?
Captain Hook, who is in all my Peter Pan-fics. The Delgado version of the Master comes second, and River Song third. Though if you want to argue that the Master is the same character regardless of regeneration s/he is definitely my most written one, in 30 fics in total.
4. What are the 3 top pairings you've written?
On shared first place are Wendy Darling/James Hook (Peter Pan), Sophie de Clermont/Fabien Marchal (Versailles) and The Master/River Song (Doctor Who), who all have 7 fics each. Second pairing is Beth Harmon/Vasily Borgov (The Queen’s Gambit) with 6 fics. And third place are Evy Carnahan O'Connell/Rick O'Connell and Imhotep/Evy Carnahan O'Connell (The Mummy), and Vanessa Ives/Sir Malcolm Murray (Penny Dreadful) with 3 fics each.
5. What are the top 3 additional tags?
On shared first place I have Humor, Angst, Dark, which have 14 fics each. Second is Alternate Universe - Canon Divergence with 9 fics, and in third place is Spanking with 8. Which I feel gives a pretty good general overview over my fanfics.
Masks
Nov. 24th, 2025 09:39 ampoliphilo I have received an invitation to a Zoom Meeting which includes the words "strong feelings" and "complex issues"- and I think "O, bugger!"
Strong feelings and complex issues usually proceed from ego. Ego is a game we get to play while we're slumming it on planet Earth. It consists of putting on a mask and making like the mask is who we really are. The game consists of people exchanging sallies like, "My mask is prettier than yours" and "how come your mask has gold leaf on it and mine hasn't?" and "How dare you laugh at my mask!" After a while (many incarnations perhaps) it gets to be tiresome.
I've been thinking about Oscar Wilde recently. He's worth listening to on the subject of masks....
Strong feelings and complex issues usually proceed from ego. Ego is a game we get to play while we're slumming it on planet Earth. It consists of putting on a mask and making like the mask is who we really are. The game consists of people exchanging sallies like, "My mask is prettier than yours" and "how come your mask has gold leaf on it and mine hasn't?" and "How dare you laugh at my mask!" After a while (many incarnations perhaps) it gets to be tiresome.
I've been thinking about Oscar Wilde recently. He's worth listening to on the subject of masks....
Round 61: Ice Ice Baby-First Reminder!
Nov. 24th, 2025 11:01 amabyss_valkyrie posting in ![[community profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png){kind=small}
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Hello, all! We have some entries in already.
There are 18 days remaining for Round 61:Ice Ice Baby to end.
Participants that need to enter their sets:
1.narnialover7
2.flareonfury
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Nov. 23rd, 2025 08:52 pmdustbunny105I'm not ready to go back to work tomorrow T_T
Maybe I would be if not for having the niblings these last few days. Trying to get anything done with them around has been practically a non-starter and there were some things I couldn't even attempt. Or, well, I guess it's more accurate to say it didn't feel worth bothering. I stand by those decisions, though.
Anyway, my room is a mess right now, lol. I shoved stuff around to move furniture, only to realize things didn't fit as well as I'd thought they would and I didn't like it. In my defense, the spaces were awkward to measure. I did end up switching placements for my display shelves and I do think I like them better this way but the bed is back where it started and the dresser and Travis didn't even move. In between all this, aside from having to deal with the kids, I put more time than I expected it would take into trying to reorganize yarn and books and a few other small things. I'm going to try to get up early and work on it some more rather than keep going tonight. Then I'll keep at it after work each day.
I keep reminding myself that it isn't as bad as it looks; things are mostly just out of place. Looking around is still pretty overwhelming, though. I'm gonna be relying heavily on the fifteen-minute and clockwise methods this next week, haha. I think it's time for another declutter too. I've realized that I still have a lot of my plushies not because of any special memories that are attached but simply because I'm used to having them. I'll keep the handful with sentimental value and the fandom characters, maybe a couple others. Some of them can go with the kids' stuff we keep here but others will probably be rehomed. I know some charities like Toys for Tots only accept new stuff but I'll see if anyone is taking donations of gently used stuffed toys. Might ask the neighbors with kids too.
So, my vacation hasn't ended on the sweetest note but I got a solid start on a few things. I maintain that I can finish what I want finished by the end of the month. Just gotta lock in. Easier said than done, granted, but just because something isn't easy doesn't mean it's impossible. Keep wishing me luck, guys! And if you wanna needle me about it, that would probably help too.
Maybe I would be if not for having the niblings these last few days. Trying to get anything done with them around has been practically a non-starter and there were some things I couldn't even attempt. Or, well, I guess it's more accurate to say it didn't feel worth bothering. I stand by those decisions, though.
Anyway, my room is a mess right now, lol. I shoved stuff around to move furniture, only to realize things didn't fit as well as I'd thought they would and I didn't like it. In my defense, the spaces were awkward to measure. I did end up switching placements for my display shelves and I do think I like them better this way but the bed is back where it started and the dresser and Travis didn't even move. In between all this, aside from having to deal with the kids, I put more time than I expected it would take into trying to reorganize yarn and books and a few other small things. I'm going to try to get up early and work on it some more rather than keep going tonight. Then I'll keep at it after work each day.
I keep reminding myself that it isn't as bad as it looks; things are mostly just out of place. Looking around is still pretty overwhelming, though. I'm gonna be relying heavily on the fifteen-minute and clockwise methods this next week, haha. I think it's time for another declutter too. I've realized that I still have a lot of my plushies not because of any special memories that are attached but simply because I'm used to having them. I'll keep the handful with sentimental value and the fandom characters, maybe a couple others. Some of them can go with the kids' stuff we keep here but others will probably be rehomed. I know some charities like Toys for Tots only accept new stuff but I'll see if anyone is taking donations of gently used stuffed toys. Might ask the neighbors with kids too.
So, my vacation hasn't ended on the sweetest note but I got a solid start on a few things. I maintain that I can finish what I want finished by the end of the month. Just gotta lock in. Easier said than done, granted, but just because something isn't easy doesn't mean it's impossible. Keep wishing me luck, guys! And if you wanna needle me about it, that would probably help too.
Dept. of Memes
Nov. 23rd, 2025 10:16 pmkaffy_rMusic Meme, Day 13
The first song that plays on shuffle:
Well, the first difficulty is that I, being monotonously linear, don't use shuffle. I think I've used shuffle on my winamp list (yes, that's how old I am; I love winamp) once, and I stopped using it almost immediately. I like organizing my lists in a way that makes sense to me. So I thought I'd have to scratch this entry. Next, I thought I'd just pick one of the songs that are halfway through my current 111-song list.
But then I thought I'd try to be true to the meme. I toggled "shuffle" and waited for the first song. It turned out to be Stray Kids' recent piece, "Ceremony."
Welp. It's one of the rare SKZ pieces that I respect, but not one I'd necessarily introduce a Stray Kids newbie. Still, rules are rules, and here you go. It really is a good song. It's just not one of my multitudinous SKZ favorites.
So I'll also include one of the songs I pinpointed as being smack dab in the middle of my list, or at least as smack dab as an uneven list allows. It's a piece by the Irish duo Saint Sister, called "Causing Trouble." I think I might have shown the actual music video for the song at some point in the past, but this is their live performance of it, many years ago. It's definitely one that I love, and sing along to. They're whip smart and lovely.
And I'm just going to link you to the last meme entry I made, so that you can catch up on previous entries, should you desire.
The first song that plays on shuffle:
Well, the first difficulty is that I, being monotonously linear, don't use shuffle. I think I've used shuffle on my winamp list (yes, that's how old I am; I love winamp) once, and I stopped using it almost immediately. I like organizing my lists in a way that makes sense to me. So I thought I'd have to scratch this entry. Next, I thought I'd just pick one of the songs that are halfway through my current 111-song list.
But then I thought I'd try to be true to the meme. I toggled "shuffle" and waited for the first song. It turned out to be Stray Kids' recent piece, "Ceremony."
Welp. It's one of the rare SKZ pieces that I respect, but not one I'd necessarily introduce a Stray Kids newbie. Still, rules are rules, and here you go. It really is a good song. It's just not one of my multitudinous SKZ favorites.
So I'll also include one of the songs I pinpointed as being smack dab in the middle of my list, or at least as smack dab as an uneven list allows. It's a piece by the Irish duo Saint Sister, called "Causing Trouble." I think I might have shown the actual music video for the song at some point in the past, but this is their live performance of it, many years ago. It's definitely one that I love, and sing along to. They're whip smart and lovely.
And I'm just going to link you to the last meme entry I made, so that you can catch up on previous entries, should you desire.
Misc things
Nov. 23rd, 2025 07:13 pmsholioThe n-OH-vember Flash Exchange revealed, and I am delighted with my gift!
A Momentary Thing (Biggles/EvS, 3100 wds)
Absolutely delightful and satisfying enemies-era forced drugging/rescue. Bittersweet and delicious.
In other news, evidently Paletteful Packs (makers of curated art supply boxes) are going out of business and having a sale. However, the two things I attempted to buy both came up as "out of stock" when I clicked to add them to the cart (though this was not otherwise indicated) and after that I gave up. So either my choices were uniquely unlucky, or a bunch of items appear to be available for purchase on the website but actually aren't.
A Momentary Thing (Biggles/EvS, 3100 wds)
Absolutely delightful and satisfying enemies-era forced drugging/rescue. Bittersweet and delicious.
In other news, evidently Paletteful Packs (makers of curated art supply boxes) are going out of business and having a sale. However, the two things I attempted to buy both came up as "out of stock" when I clicked to add them to the cart (though this was not otherwise indicated) and after that I gave up. So either my choices were uniquely unlucky, or a bunch of items appear to be available for purchase on the website but actually aren't.
Daily Happiness
Nov. 23rd, 2025 08:01 pmtorachan1. Last week when I was reorganizing stuff in the shed, we went over some items and decided we no longer needed to keep them, but since it was still raining off and on, I didn't put them out at the time. Today I got them out on the curb, along with a box of ornaments we decided we no longer want, so hopefully those all get picked up soon.
2. I did some cleaning out of kitchen cupboards and fridge drawers yesterday and today. There were a lot of snacks that are expiring within the next week or so and Carla's out of town and I'm not going to eat them on my own, so I took them up to the Little Free Library that's been converted to a mini food pantry and they were already all gone the next time I took a walk.
3. Look at this sweet Chloe.
2. I did some cleaning out of kitchen cupboards and fridge drawers yesterday and today. There were a lot of snacks that are expiring within the next week or so and Carla's out of town and I'm not going to eat them on my own, so I took them up to the Little Free Library that's been converted to a mini food pantry and they were already all gone the next time I took a walk.
3. Look at this sweet Chloe.
The Vertigo Project: new work!
Nov. 23rd, 2025 09:08 pmmrissaI've mentioned here before that one of my big projects this year is my involvement with The Vertigo Project, which now has a webpage so the rest of you can see what we've been doing. Earlier today I facilitated the first creative therapy-style writing workshop through that group, and it was really lovely--and is just the tip of the iceberg on what this group is doing.
Specifically, you can now read all the new work they've commissioned from me! Friends, it's a lot. It's journaling prompts for people who would like to use writing to process some of their own vertigo experiences. But also it's the following stories and poems:
Advice for Wormhole Travelers (story), safe conduct through strange new worlds
Club Planet Vertigo (poem), this is not the dance I wanted to do
Greetings from Innerspace (poem), my orbits are eccentric
The Nature of Nemesis (poem), me and Clark Kent know what's what
On the Way Down (poem), falling hard
Preparation (poem), sometimes we're just literal, okay
She Wavers But She Does Not Weaken (story), when the waves hit you even on dry land, it's good to have someone who's willing to swim against the current for you
The Torn Map (story), rewriting the pieces of the former world into something new
The main page also has links to some of the other aspects of the project, which includes a nonfiction book, dance, puppetry, a podcast with a physical therapist, and more. Please feel welcome to explore it all.
Well that's fun
Nov. 23rd, 2025 08:38 pmsenmutI am currently working on my ladiesbingo card for my December posting goals.
Sinners (Annie & Mary)
Buffy the Vampire Slayer (Buffy & Dawn about Willow)
DC Comics (Dinah Lance & Selina Kyle)
Partners in Crime (Carole & Sydney)
Now, I have been the first to put fandom tags up on AO3 a lot in the distant past. But I never thought I'd be doing it again in 2025. The last time I did was 2021, and I was pleasantly surprised to see that The Jeffersons now has more than my one work. So I double checked that last fandom up there, got briefly excited because "Partners in Crime" was a tag in the TV Show fandoms.
However, it is actually for Agatha Christie's Partners in Crime, from the year before my one season detective American show. So yep, gotta disambiguate the name when I create it.
(I am trying to mentally fortify myself for the first TG dinner I am partly responsible for in ... a very long time, so no misc.exhausted.me this week)
ladiesbingo card for my December posting goals. Sinners (Annie & Mary)
Buffy the Vampire Slayer (Buffy & Dawn about Willow)
DC Comics (Dinah Lance & Selina Kyle)
Partners in Crime (Carole & Sydney)
Now, I have been the first to put fandom tags up on AO3 a lot in the distant past. But I never thought I'd be doing it again in 2025. The last time I did was 2021, and I was pleasantly surprised to see that The Jeffersons now has more than my one work. So I double checked that last fandom up there, got briefly excited because "Partners in Crime" was a tag in the TV Show fandoms.
However, it is actually for Agatha Christie's Partners in Crime, from the year before my one season detective American show. So yep, gotta disambiguate the name when I create it.
(I am trying to mentally fortify myself for the first TG dinner I am partly responsible for in ... a very long time, so no misc.exhausted.me this week)
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Nov. 23rd, 2025 07:13 pmconuly posting in agonyauntDear Care and Feeding,
I’m 19 and in university. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, “Jason.” He’d been acting weird for a few weeks, but when I ended things, he completely flipped out.
It escalated to the point where he slipped into my family’s home, stole our cat, “Flibble,” and tried to hold him for ransom. We did get Flibble back, and Jason is now facing charges. I just want to put this all behind me.
My parents, however, are furious. They keep telling me I should “have better judgment” and promise I’m going to get an earful this Thanksgiving about “choosing appropriate partners.” I get it, this got bad. But Jason wasn’t showing signs of being unhinged when we first started dating, and I did break up with him as soon as he started acting erratically. Still, my parents chew me out every time we talk and have started calling two or three times a week specifically to lecture me.
It’s driving me crazy. I don’t want to block them or cut them out of my life, but I also don’t want to deal with this anymore. What can I do to get them to lay off?
—Stepped In It
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I’m 19 and in university. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, “Jason.” He’d been acting weird for a few weeks, but when I ended things, he completely flipped out.
It escalated to the point where he slipped into my family’s home, stole our cat, “Flibble,” and tried to hold him for ransom. We did get Flibble back, and Jason is now facing charges. I just want to put this all behind me.
My parents, however, are furious. They keep telling me I should “have better judgment” and promise I’m going to get an earful this Thanksgiving about “choosing appropriate partners.” I get it, this got bad. But Jason wasn’t showing signs of being unhinged when we first started dating, and I did break up with him as soon as he started acting erratically. Still, my parents chew me out every time we talk and have started calling two or three times a week specifically to lecture me.
It’s driving me crazy. I don’t want to block them or cut them out of my life, but I also don’t want to deal with this anymore. What can I do to get them to lay off?
—Stepped In It
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Nov. 23rd, 2025 07:03 pmconuly posting in agonyauntDear Meghan: I have an 8-year-old daughter. She does not have a mother (my husband and I are both men). She doesn’t particularly like shopping for clothes, but she has a relative who keeps her very well stocked with jumpsuits, dresses and girly outfits of all kinds, which is the type of clothing she typically likes. In general, I let her decide for herself how to mix and match the various clothes she has each morning and will only step in if something is really inappropriate.
My mother, however, feels the need to criticize her clothing choices nearly every time she sees her. “Oh dear, you should never mix prints!” or “Why didn’t you wear a different shirt under that jumpsuit — it really doesn’t match at all!” My mother blames me for what she sees as my inability to teach a girl about girls’ fashion.
I told her that I had indeed talked about some of these rules, but I thought my daughter should also be able to make her own choices about how to dress. She then accused me of being a bad parent and suggested that I would also “give up” if faced with a child who stole or cheated on a test. Is it really so wrong to refuse to have a daily struggle because my daughter went to school with shorts that lightly clashed with her shirt?
— Grandma’s Criticisms
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My mother, however, feels the need to criticize her clothing choices nearly every time she sees her. “Oh dear, you should never mix prints!” or “Why didn’t you wear a different shirt under that jumpsuit — it really doesn’t match at all!” My mother blames me for what she sees as my inability to teach a girl about girls’ fashion.
I told her that I had indeed talked about some of these rules, but I thought my daughter should also be able to make her own choices about how to dress. She then accused me of being a bad parent and suggested that I would also “give up” if faced with a child who stole or cheated on a test. Is it really so wrong to refuse to have a daily struggle because my daughter went to school with shorts that lightly clashed with her shirt?
— Grandma’s Criticisms
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Nov. 23rd, 2025 06:59 pmconuly posting in agonyauntDear Meghan: My sons (5 and 6 years old, both mildly autistic) tend to wake up in the morning and as fast as they can dive into my husband’s and my bed for cuddles. They seem to get a lot of sensory satisfaction and a lot of comfort from this ritual. Their preference would be to cuddle with me or both of us for about 15 minutes until they’re all the way awake, then run off and do their own thing. I don’t mind this at all — I enjoy it somewhat, and I find that (as primary caretaker) their days and thus mine go much smoother if they have this cuddle in bed to start the day.
The problem is that my husband says it ruins his day to have his kids in his bed at all.
I have tried to be a physical barrier between him and them — doesn’t work. I’ve tried to not let them in until he’s already up and showering — doesn’t work. I’ve tried to go to their beds and cuddle them there — doesn’t work. I’m out of ideas.
What should I do?
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The problem is that my husband says it ruins his day to have his kids in his bed at all.
I have tried to be a physical barrier between him and them — doesn’t work. I’ve tried to not let them in until he’s already up and showering — doesn’t work. I’ve tried to go to their beds and cuddle them there — doesn’t work. I’m out of ideas.
What should I do?
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"The Deere Files Podcast Presents: The Heirs Of Samuel Westing." (The Westing Game) G
Nov. 23rd, 2025 05:36 pmlannamichaelsTitle: The Deere Files Podcast Presents: The Heirs Of Samuel Westing.
Author:
lannamichaelsFandom: The Westing Game
Rating: G
Archives: Archive Of Our Own, SquidgeWorld
Summary: What do a Supreme Court Justice, the chairwoman of the board of the largest employer in Wisconsin, a two-time Olympic gold medalist, the inventor of Hoo's Little Foot-Eze innersoles, and a dead union organizer who didn't exist have in common?
( There was no such person as Barney Northrup )
第四年第三百十九天
Nov. 24th, 2025 07:55 amnnozomi posting in guardian_learning部首
山 parts 2-4
岛, island; 岩, cliff/rock; 岳, peak/wife-side in-laws; 岸, coast; 峰, peak; 崖, cliff; 崩, to collapse; 崽, child/baby animal; 巍, lofty
( pinyin )
https://www.mdbg.net/chinese/dictionary?cdqrad=46
川
川, river; 州, state; 巢, nest ( pinyin )
https://www.mdbg.net/chinese/dictionary?cdqrad=47
工 parts 1-2
工, work; 左, left; 巧, coincidental/skillful; 巨, gigantic (also slang for "very"); 巫, witch/wizard/shaman; 差, different/inferior/errand
( pinyin )
https://www.mdbg.net/chinese/dictionary?cdqrad=48
语法
1.6: Questions with 吗 and 呢
1.7: Question words
1.8 是...的 sentences
https://www.digmandarin.com/hsk-1-grammar
词汇
爱国, patriotic; 爱护, to care; 亲爱, dear; 喜爱, to be fond of
安, quiet/safe; 安置, to put/to arrange for
按时, on time
巴士, 大巴, bus; 尾巴, tail; 嘴巴, mouth
百货, department store
摆, pendulum; 摆动, to swing/to vibrate; 摆脱, to cast off 摆
( pinyin )
https://mandarinbean.com/new-hsk-4-word-list/
玩玩
A taste of Cheer Chen|陈绮贞 today: 鱼 (one of these days soon I’ll do a special edition of “all the songs I can think of with 鱼 in the title,” there are a lot) and 还是会寂寞.
好冷啊，早晨很难起床。想喝热可可！大家过得怎么样？
山 parts 2-4
岛, island; 岩, cliff/rock; 岳, peak/wife-side in-laws; 岸, coast; 峰, peak; 崖, cliff; 崩, to collapse; 崽, child/baby animal; 巍, lofty
( pinyin )
https://www.mdbg.net/chinese/dictionary?cdqrad=46
川
川, river; 州, state; 巢, nest ( pinyin )
https://www.mdbg.net/chinese/dictionary?cdqrad=47
工 parts 1-2
工, work; 左, left; 巧, coincidental/skillful; 巨, gigantic (also slang for "very"); 巫, witch/wizard/shaman; 差, different/inferior/errand
( pinyin )
https://www.mdbg.net/chinese/dictionary?cdqrad=48
语法
1.6: Questions with 吗 and 呢
1.7: Question words
1.8 是...的 sentences
https://www.digmandarin.com/hsk-1-grammar
词汇
爱国, patriotic; 爱护, to care; 亲爱, dear; 喜爱, to be fond of
安, quiet/safe; 安置, to put/to arrange for
按时, on time
巴士, 大巴, bus; 尾巴, tail; 嘴巴, mouth
百货, department store
摆, pendulum; 摆动, to swing/to vibrate; 摆脱, to cast off 摆
( pinyin )
https://mandarinbean.com/new-hsk-4-word-list/
玩玩
A taste of Cheer Chen|陈绮贞 today: 鱼 (one of these days soon I’ll do a special edition of “all the songs I can think of with 鱼 in the title,” there are a lot) and 还是会寂寞.
好冷啊，早晨很难起床。想喝热可可！大家过得怎么样？